What to do to discipline a 16 yr old.. who may be bi polar?

she has a doctor appt on the 22.. so hopefully then i can find out what is wrong with her.. the doctors at the hospital she stayed in for 5 days said it was a mood disorder.. she thinks of harming herself or others.. she get mad easily one day the next she is ok.. she stays on the computer day and night..she has freinds that only she can hear..on school cousnsler thought sychio. the other one bi polar..all the doctors could come up with was mood disorder they put her on ablilify.. but she can not take it.. it makes her throw up all the time when she starts cussing and yelling i want to smack her. but don't.. my bf says take the computer away.. but it seems like a life line to her.. she is on it from the time she gets home from school to the time she goes to bed..and on the week she will get off it only to sleep and go to the bathroom?

jackie.. i check what she is doing.. she is chatting or on her web site she made up.. a role playing web site..

First off...your boyfriend can't dictact your daughter. Second, don't DISCIPLINE your kid just because she probably has bipolar disorder. Honestly, do you think that's gonna help anything? Will it make you feel superior to know that the one thing she loves and makes her feel better is taken away just because of your or your ex's curse of recessive genes?

I'm not trying to be mean, but lady come on. Its not her fault she has something wrong with her brain. I'm 18 now and I've been on meds for bipolar disorder type I (more mania than depression) for a year now. Ill never forgive my parents for yelling at me when I was depressed and felt like I couldn't takeanother day of getting out of bed. One morning my mom started screaming at me because I wouldn't get up and she took the keyboard and mouse away and I tried to stop her but she basically broke my guitar from the scuffle not to mentiion other times of throwing my guitars into the trunk of rthe car as punishment. Oh yeah, I forgot, the idiot made me go through psychosis because she thought she knew everything and so the pysch listened to her and put me on an antidepresant.

So yeah. She's never going to forgive you if you punish her just because she has aproblem. What happened to parents loving and helping their kids when they know they need help? The worst thing about my experience with this is the fact that my dad travels a lot for his job and he's the only one in my house I trust and so since he was gone, I had to fight this by myself. I had to ask my girlfriends mom to help me and I always talked to her if something was bothering me. Do you want your daughter to be scared to talk to you like I am with my mom because she hurt me so bad when I needed help? Do you actually want to cause her to go suicidal?

20% of people with BP don't take medication, 20-25% of them commit suicide...adding the fact that even if they're on medicine they can be suicidal...seeing as 30% of the millions with this commit suicide....oh...not to mention, 40% of teens commit suicide because 1: they're depressed and are too scared to talk to their parents...and 2: because their parents and siblings never even noticed they were in pain...because some families don't talk about these kind of things so they feel like they have nothing.


You need to be a parent. You need to love your daughter and have a mindset of you'll do anything to make sure she's happy and safe. Its NOT her fault. Buit you're making it worse by trying to take away things from her. She's on the comp a lot probably because it clears her mind. Because she loves escaping.

You need to research teens with bipolar disorder. Also, make sure if she is bipolar...talk about lamictal. Lithium makes many many young people sick and zombieish. ...also over time you have to keep increasing the dosage....you gain weight too. Lamictal is nothing like that. After 18 months the pysch re-examines...but just to make sure. No weight gain. Hardly any side effects.

Don't smack her. You honestly don't understand the concept of mental disorders....so look it up. Abilify is just like lithium, makes many sick. Like I said. Lamictal works wonders. I've been on it for 12 months now, recovered after the 4th month and got my life back together.
But I've just recently increased from 100 to 150 because of anxiety isues, but I've never had side effects...and I consider my idiot pysch somewhat of a good doc.

Just be loving. You're making it worse by fighting with her. Do you not understand that? You need to just go along with it, like I said, its not her fault. Blame your genes you passed onto her.

Tell her (or you) to email me comebackkiddxxx@yahoo.com,
I realy would like to give her some pointers on how to control her life again. You need to get her in a lot sooner than april 22nd. She CAN go into psychosis.

Did you ever think that maybe she is on the computer to find out exactly what is wrong with her. Definetely do NOT take away her computer. She is 16 years old. She is old enough to know that she is suffering from some sort of mental illness and she may be googling illnesses and researching it for herself. It is a sort of self help.

It's good she has an appt., but if you don't get any answers from that doctor, go to another. She has a problem and it may just be adolescence, but it may be something serious. Right now, you have no way of disciplining her UNTIL you work with a doctor. Whatever you do for discipline could result in good or bad and you would really regret the bad if that happened. You just need to continue to be patient with her until she AND you have discussed everything with a psychologist and/or a psychiatrist. Discuss appropriate discipline with the doctor. They are the professionals.

Good luck!

Let her have the computer. If she's bipolar and in a mood state, she'll go nuts without something simple to occupy her time. You do not want to experience that! Meanwhile, get on the phone to the prescribing doc and explain the reaction. Perhaps s/he will prescribe something else to try. If not that, call the office where you have an appt and explain the situation. .... As frustrated as you may be with her behavior, if she's bipolar or sz, your daughter is really, honestly and truly feeling like helll, so muster up as much compassion and patience as you can find.